Men & Women Cannot be JUST friends

Got into a discussion and some girl talk with my 17-year old niece over this song.

I told her every girl goes through having a friend...you think or you actually love...but...either he loves someone else or you yourself are not sure what you have between the 2 of you. You are very close to each other but not intimate. You know each other deeply but not committed. People see you and think you're a couple but you're not.

So what are you? More than friends, less than lovers. In limbo.

Over dinner, I asked her 20 year old brother if he feels that such closeness between a boy and a girl can really happen and the 2 remain JUST friends?

Yes, he said it is possible if the boy does not cross over that thin line of being JUST friends. I guess what he means by that thin line, is he avoids "the kiss", the "touch" and the "3 words"....just keep it to the talks and walks. He also said that boys can remain friends but it's the girls who will often feel different and start questioning then perhaps, expecting.

No, This movie, "When Harry Met Sally" says it is not possible. Watch why.





So what's a girl to believe in?

My mom put it best. Every girl wants to be loved so let yourself be loved. A guy who likes you will do anything to make you happy. You do not even have to lift a finger to keep his attention. You already got him at hello. To be loved, learn to love yourself first. Because just being you already makes him want to be always near you. He wants you, and only you. No one else. If this happens, you better be ready for some serious lovin' :-) This is the time to think what he is to you.

As for the guys who don't fit the bill above, "buddy" is what he should be to you...for now. Perhaps it can change. Time will tell, as Kuya said.